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There are a lot of nights I go to bed wondering if I was too hard on the kids for something they did wrong. Could I have been more understanding, more patient, more loving? Could I have not let them slide just this once for that behavior? After all I don’t blame them I probably have done the same thing at one time or they acted that way because I act that way. The answers are a mixture of yes and no’s. Yes, I should have bit my tongue a few hundred times to the point I probably shouldn’t have a tongue left! I’ve learned being patient comes with time and being in the word daily. Being in the word, doing my devotionals and blogging requires discipline. Being more loving grows more and more every day. Every limit I set or punishment I give to them is done in Love.
One of my favorite verses about Discipline by our Heavenly Father is out of Hebrew 12:3-11
3-For consider Him who endured such hostility from sinners against Himself, so that you won’t grow weary and lose heart.4- In struggling against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood.5- And you have forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons:
My son, do not take the Lord’s discipline lightly or faint when you are reproved by Him,6- for the Lord disciplines the one He loves and punishes every son He receives. 7-Endure suffering as discipline: God is dealing with you as sons. For what son is there that a father does not discipline? 8- But if you are without discipline---which all receive---then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9- Furthermore, we had natural fathers discipline us, and we respected them. Shouldn’t we submit even more to the Father of spirits and live? 10- For they disciplined us for a short time based on what seemed good to them, but He does it for our benefit, so that we can share His holiness. 11- No discipline seems enjoyable at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it yields the fruit of peace and righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
God does not discipline us to harm us but to bless us in fellowship and receiving His peace and righteousness. We, as parents do the same for our own children. As I’ve stated in a previous blog, I understand God more and more each and every day I raise my own children. I understand why God put Adam and Eve out of the Garden of Eden, why he flooded the earth, the plagues he sent and the list can go on and on. We just weren’t listening and he had had enough! How many times as a parent have you felt like you have repeated yourself so many times you felt like a broken recorded and you were just about to blow your top. We are at present battling with the boys to finish up their summer reading books and as much as we want to just let them fail and take the grade they get, we have a hard time doing that! But, the right thing to do is explain that if they don’t do the work and make a bad grade then they will be grounded. It’s just so hard to sit back and see your child fail when you could have done something to prevent it. However, what one teacher told me was it is better for them to fail now and learn from it than have them fail when it really counts. Today’s parents don’t have the freedom to discipline their children the way our parents were allowed to. We have so many children raised by two parents in different homes, one parent, by grandparents and by strangers. It’s not like it was when we were growing up and the children are paying for that. I love my children more than my own life, I want my children to have the security of structure and discipline that I had known growing up. They are counting on me to not be their friend all the time and to direct them in the way of the Word.
In closing I want to share a few more items that are straight out of my Bible on the way the authors interpreted the verses. It helped me to understand it better and I hope it will do the same for you.
Familial language appears throughout the book of Hebrews. The First person of the Trinity is God the Father, and the Second Person of the Trinity is His Son. The Son became a human being in order to unite Himself with His believing “brothers.” The Son can then bring His brothers into the presence of the Father, who will consider them His “sons.” The believers in Christ are sons of God, they have a superior source of comfort. They are more than mere servants; God addresses them as sons. And yet, a father displays his love for his sons by disciplining them. Just as the readers have accepted discipline from their natural fathers, so too should they receive discipline from the Father of spirits. God does not discipline His sons to harm them, but to bless them. The benefit of the Father’s discipline is fellowship in His holiness and receiving His peace and righteousness.
As I’m growing in my relationship with Christ, I try and apply my own feelings with how I feel about my own children to how God might feel when I, myself do a certain behavior that might upset him. When my children are fighting with each other, when they hurt, when they want something that I can’t give them or just how I feel when I love on them, it’s so many emotions. Now, imagine the powerful all in one, God, the creator of the whole universe. I can picture the birth of a baby making rain fall from the skies from his tears and the discipline he hands to his children can shake the world.
11-Do not despise the Lord’s instruction, my son, and do not loathe His discipline; 12- for the Lord disciplines the one He loves, just as a father, the son he delights in.
To ask God to refrain from giving us discipline would be to ask Him to love us less.
Have a blessed day!
As a person we just want to be wanted and loved. As a parent, we just want to give our children the best, the world. We want them to feel loved and never to suffer pain, loss or want. But also as a parent, we know we cannot prevent any of that from happening nor need too. In order for our children to grow up into a well-rounded adult, we have to set guidelines and structure. When I became a mother for the first time, I knew what I wanted to do with my life for the first time. I have always wanted to be a mommy and wife but for the first time ever I felt I had direction for my future. I wanted to be a teacher. I went to the tech school and started taking classes for early childhood development. I even got a chance to take Hunter in and use him as a college type show and tell. While in school we were also building a daycare for my mom and I to run. Once it was built, I taught 3 yr olds and I loved it! I went on to have our second child, Braydon. Right after I had Braydon, my parents sold the daycare and shortly after that I got fired. The new owners did not think I could grow with their company and my ways weren’t their ways. In other words, my words, the families like me and came to me with a lot of problems and not them. We had developed a bond and when it comes to your children you are cautious on whom you let watch your child all day long. Shortly after getting fired, a few of my families called me and asked if I’d watch their children at my home. I did and continued for almost two years. Then one day I received a call from the owners that had bought the daycare. Long story short, he had ran the daycare into the ground and wanted me to come back and run it. I did and was pregnant again with my third child, Gracie. However, it wasn’t just me that came back. I was not about to jump into the daycare business without my assistant director that I had before and who is now the owner of not only that daycare but another one. Both daycares are doing great! After running the daycare, my career choice has not really been my own and my fulfillment for my job hasn’t been the same. Children are my heart. Maybe that’s why I have so many!